I'm not sure what to think...

Scott

Scott

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So, some of you knew, my wife and I announced that she was pregnant a few weeks ago. Last night was a very long night, and we believe that we miscarried the child :(. We are seeing about getting an emergency visit to the doctor today. I am absolutely crushed. We have not told anyone yet, as most of her family is out of town, and my parents live out of state. I guess we just want confirmation of what happened before we tell anyone. The amount of hurt I feel about this is unreal. I would appreciate any thoughts and prayers you guys can muster. I'm trying to be "the tough one", but watching what this is doing to my wife right now is really wearing on me. I don't even know what to think right now.

Scott
 
Not that this is any consolation, but welcome to the club. Actually, something like 80% of women have at least one miscarriage in their lives, some know it, others don't.

Chin up and keep moving forward. Hug your wife and tell her it Will be okay, because it will. You won't ever forget, but years from now it will be just another bump in the road.
 
My condolences and prayers Scott, to you and your wife.

The strength and emotional support that you provide your wife and family are essential for their well-being, but be sure to allow some private-time to share your grief with your wife and partner. You can help her grieve and heal by expressing your emotions - it's okay to share your feelings with her.
 
Thank you all for the responses. We're doing ok. There have been lots of tears today, but I think that's a good thing to help with the grieving.
 
So sorry to hear this Scott. Our thoughts and prayers are with you an your wife.
 
All I ask is that those of you that are friends with me on Facebook, please keep this on the down low for now. There is still family we need to tell and they are on facebook, so I don't need them to find out from anyone other than myself. We are kinda waiting until the wife sees her doctor in the morning to just make sure of what we think happened last night.
 
Sad to hear. In our thoughts and prayers. Folks who haven't been through it may not understand but your grief is very real and perfectly okay to feel.
 
Sending prayers for strength Scott, hug your wife and communicate your feelings to your her.....and keep moving forward together.
 
So sorry man, I can not imagine what you both are going through. I wish y'all the best .

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Very sorry to hear this Scott. Sending best wishes to both you and your wife.
 
X2 what TangoBlue said. My father was an OB/GYN, so I've heard my share of losses like this. It's not her fault. It's not your fault. God or what beliefs you do hold had other plans and that's it. Don't be silent with your wife about it. If you need counseling, your doctor, or a priest or whatever, don't hesitate and 'go it alone'.

Your doctor may be able to shed some light on why, they may not. As my dad used to tell me, it's natures way of saying something wasn't right. It's little consolation for the grief you are feeling right now and my thought are with both of you.
 
Thanks you all. My wife and I are working through this. I had a bit of a grieving period last night as we were going to bed. She has had hers as well, and we're coming to terms with it. We both know that God has His plans for us, and when it's time for us to have another child, we will. Things are OK here. It's been a little tough as my wife's sister JUST had her first child 3 days ago, and my wife's parents are out in Oklahoma visiting their newest grand kid for a few weeks.. so we really have no family to lean on right now, locally. That being said, we're making it through. I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit concerned about my wife, as she had a I'm afraid she hasn't grieved properly, but I guess we will see how that works out.
 
Thought I would update this. Wife had a doctors appt the other day, and it was confirmed that she has miscarried. Now to decide if we tell my 2 year old daughter, who was expecting to be a big sister, or if we just leave it alone. I came across this birth announcement picture, and it made me laugh due to my daughter's face, but also made me sad as well... dosclaimer, she was mad because we made her cover up the "frozen" shirt she was wearing...

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